MY NAME IS JESSICA WORTHINGTON, And I'm glad you're here. 

Are you looking for effective couples therapy to address chronic issues in your relationship? Is your relationship struggling with communication, intimacy or infidelity? Do you desire an intimate connection with your partner, but find yourself at a loss of how to get back to one another? 

I specialize in providing couples therapy and marriage counseling for couples who find themselves in the midst of a crisis in their relationship. Most people never imaged getting to a place where it's hard to see a future with their partner. If your relationship has gone off course, then looking for professional help is one of the best things you can do for the health of your relationship.  

Relationship crises can arise from many things, but if you or your partner are wanting to address the concerns in your relationship and build a stronger relationship, then give me a call for a FREE consultation to see if I'm the right therapist for you. If it turns out I'm not the therapist for you, then I'd love to hear what you're looking for and send you in the right direction. Getting you the care you need is my top priority.

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Absolutely! Marriage and Family Therapists are trained to think about relationships systemically, which means that even when only one person changes their behaviors, the relationship will still see change. If you are feeling stuck in your relationship and can't get your partner to come to therapy, or if they are simply unavailable, then getting support to create positive changes in your relationship is still an option. I can help you sort through what you're experiencing, understand the role you play in your relationships, and help you create the change you want to see in your relationships. 

 

If so, then chances are you and your relationships are experiencing stress, fear, anxiety and turmoil like never before. Facing the challenges of a medical condition, and learning how to brave these together is no easy task. During times like these, it's easier for people to experience a breakdown in communication and connection in their relationships given all the stress, uncertainty and adjustments they are going through. I work with folks who are adjusting to the impact of a medical condition, and are needing support to navigate the emotional and relational changes that accompany.  Stressful experiences of any kind can threaten the health of a relationship, and I help couples and families navigate the impact of the illness together and create a deeper intimacy during and after treatment.  

 

Nearly everyone enters marriage with the dream of a lifelong union. But many couples reach a crisis point where divorce is on the table. Sometimes it's after years of emotional distance, financial problems, sexual problems, or constant arguing. Sometimes it's after a recent affair or an illness that creates an emergency.

Whatever the reason, usually one spouse thinks that divorce is the only way to solve the problem, while the other spouse wants to hang on and make things better. Then they fight about whether to divorce. Once the legal divorce process begins, the alienation and conflict can escalate, and before long all hope for the marriage or for a constructive divorce is gone.

IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY.

Discernment Counseling is a new way for couples to pause, take a breath, and look at their options. It's different from traditional marriage counseling aimed at improving the marriage. We don't assume that you both want to preserve the marriage, only that you are both willing to take a look at what's happened to your marriage and decide whether to break up or to try to repair it.

IF YOU OR YOUR SPOUSE ARE CONSIDERING DIVORCE, I CAN HELP YOU

  • gain clarity and confidence about what steps to take next with your marriage
  • understand what has happened to your marriage
  • look at both sides of problems - yours and your spouse's
  • determine whether past counseling has been helpful or not so helpful
  • evaluate the possibility of solving your problems and staying married
  • make a good decision about whether or not to move towards divorce

COUNSELING FOR COUPLES: DISCERNMENT COUNSELING

Discernment counseling is short term, and the focus is not on solving marital problems but on seeing if they could potentially be solved.

  • Unlike traditional marriage counseling that assumes that both people are willing to work on the marriage, discernment counseling helps people decide whether to work on their marriage or keep moving towards divorce.
  • Unlike individual counseling that usually takes one person's side, the discernment counselor works to understand both partners, even if they see things very differently.

WHO IS DISCERNMENT COUNSELING FOR?

Discernment Counseling is for people who are considering divorce but are not completely sure if it's the right path for them. They want to take one more look before making a permanent decision with long term consequences.

It's for people who want to give their marriage another chance even though their spouse is moving towards divorce.

If you are interested in discernment counseling but your spouse is not interested at this time, I can still help.

WHAT DOES DISCERNMENT COUNSELING INVOLVE?

The discernment counselor helps individuals and couples decide whether to try to restore their marriage to health, move towards divorce, or take a time out and decide later. The sessions are divided between conversation with the couple together and individual conversations with each spouse. The counselor respects the reasons for divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health.

The counselor emphasizes the importance of each party seeing his or her own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends. Discernment counseling is considered successful when people have clarity and confidence in their decision.

When a decision emerges, the counselor helps the parties either to find professionals who can help them have a constructive divorce or to formulate a reconciliation work plan to create a healthy, successful marriage. In some cases, couples decide to take a time out from the discernment process and return later.

HOW MANY SESSIONS ARE THERE?

Discernment counseling involves a maximum of five counseling sessions. The first session is usually 2 hours, and subsequent sessions are 1.5 to 2 hours. Fees for Discernment Counseling are $110/hour.

DISCERNMENT COUNSELING IS NOT SUITABLE WHEN

  • one spouse has made a final decision to divorce and wants counseling to encourage the other spouse accept that decision
  • there is a danger of domestic violence
  • there is an Order of Protection from the court
  • one spouse is coercing the other to participate

 

 

Content about Discernment Counseling taken from: Minnesota Couples on the Brink Project 


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